Monthly Archives: June 2012

Some Nice Gay News

Been looking through some gay news websites (mostly the ones with funny names: Pink Paper, Gayapolis..) and of course there’s the usual depressing homophobia and human rights issues going on around the world, so here are some nice news stories on The Gay this week:

Study proves Lesbian families do “very well” without father figures []

(btw the title of this image that I got from the story’s page is actually titled ‘daughter_and_mother’… whoops.)

Recent studies, that started in the 80s and have been following the development of a group of children raised by lesbian couples, show that the ‘lack of a male role model’ doesn’t even remotely effect the adolescences’ sense of masculinity, or any issues in gender and gender role confusion, or in fact any stress, anxiety or depression other than would be ‘present in any ‘normal’ teen’. Pretty nice news, considering this seems to be one of the main issues thrown around as reasons same-sex couples  shouldn’t be raising children. This is particularly nice news for me and my fiance of course, as we one day want to raise kids – you know, in the distant future when we all have jet packs and television that projects directly into your mind.

I haven’t actually spied any studies in gay male couples raising children as of yet, possibly because people probably aren’t as bothered about men raising children ‘too masculine’.

Hundreds of Mormon church members join Utah pride march []

Utah of course is the home of the Mormon church, and presumably you’d imagine they would object to the celebration of homosexuality parading through their home state – but everyone was pleasantly surprised when they picked up their  pride flags and joined the march, expressing their ‘unconditional love’ for the LGBT community with quotes from Mormon songs and passages.

In the last couple of years changes have been made in the Latter-day Saints Church’s attitudes towards homosexuality, mainly that ‘being gay’ is not in itself a sin, as long as gay people are staying celibate. This is similar to many Christian attitudes coming out that ‘gay is ok’ but sex before marriage is not, and because same-sex couples can’t get married, gay sex is not acceptable. At least this is smarter than quoting Leviticus repeatedly, and I don’t personally see anything wrong with people promoting celibacy if that’s what they believe is the word of their god, in comparison to hate-crimes and forcing people to ‘turn straight’. If hundreds of conservatively dressed Mormons can walk in a gay pride event and accept and celebrate love between two people of the same sex, then that brings hope that these people may realise that perhaps these two people getting married won’t be such a bad thing after all.

New anti-homophobia award named in honour of Alan Turing []

Alan Turing

Alan Turing, who was a code-breaking genius in the second world war and created some of the earliest designs for the computer, committed suicide in 1954 after being put on chemical and hormone treatment to ‘cure’ his homosexuality. To celebrate the 100th year since his birth, a new award for the LGF’s Homo Heroes Awards has been named after him, to be awarded to individuals or groups who have helped victims of homophobia.

Ski star admits she is a lesbian []

Anja Paerson

“Swedish ski star Anja Paerson revealed she had a long-term girlfriend, Filippa, and that she is expecting a baby.”

Well I have no idea who this woman is, but it’s always nice to hear about people coming out, especially those who are well-known and inspire others. Congrats to her, and her new family!

Leave a comment

Filed under The Gay

Steve Doesn’t Fail At Life


Somehow I got 2:1 degree. And got a 1st on my Henry James dissertation (despite spelling one of the character’s names wrong – whoops!) and that’s basically all the information I can process right now.

Today’s song is Jesus Christ by Brand New, partly because JESUS CHRIST is all I’m thinking right now, partly because that was the song I listened to when I was crying when I got into my first choice university (despite not getting all the grades they wanted from me – yeah, basically I’m the luckiest son-of-a-bitch in the world) and I’m pretty much feeling the same disbelief and relief – or at least I would if I didn’t have a mixture of vodka and caffeine souring through my veins.


I kind of just feel numb and odd, but I’m sure it’ll hit me later, or maybe I’m just too relieved that it’s finally all over and not a complete waste of my life to feel ecstatic right now.

Also, I’m cosplaying today! I’m ‘Steve when she first came to Uni’ complete with black band tshirt, studded belt, scull neck-scarf, thick eyeliner and crazy hair – I’ve really been committing to the role, spending the whole day listening to My Chemical Romance and Brand New, not wearing a coat even though it’s chilly outside, taking pictures of myself at odd angles…


Maybe this is adding to the odd feeling. I got a few compliments on my eye makeup – and an inquiry about if I was carrying a knife on me – but it’s the end of the day now and my face is itchy, my hair is flattening and I just want to curl up in a hoodie and listen to some Glee – guess that means I’m growing up, huh? Or something.

Leave a comment

Filed under Graduation

It Has Arrived.


Less than an hour until I get my degree results.

Fair well, cruel world.

Or should that be: Fair well, cruel education system.

Am I celebrating my freedom or mourning my youth? I’m not sure either. Let’s find out!

Leave a comment

Filed under Graduation

Steve Listens to (Bad?) Music

I have what some people may describe as a ‘bad’ taste in music.

I would disagree, I would say that I have a very varied taste in music. There are few musical genres I don’t like, but I’m also not big on searching out music or discovering new music, and prefer music to find me or to just to stick with what I know and like. When I was kid I only listened to soundtracks from musicals. The first albums I ever bought were My Chemical Romance’s Three Cheers For Sweet Revenge, Blink 182’s Greatest Hits, and Smash Mouth’s Greatest Hits, and for a while I would only ever listen to these albums. At another point in my teens I would almost exclusively listen to the bands Taking Back Sunday, Fallout Boy and Nightmare Of You.  I later branched out to Brand New, and there was a period where I was researching goth culture and bought The Cure’s Greatest Hits and these are now two of my favourite bands. At one point in Fresher Year I had a minor obsession with The Smiths. I also love 80s music like nobody’s business.

Currently Listening To:

I tend to buy Greatest Hits, compilation CDs or soundtracks to TV shows and films I like, and this is generally how I discover music. I used the download fanmixes a lot (where fans make ‘mix tapes’ for a character or pairing on a show) or swap mixed CDs with my friends, as I could discover new music still associated with something I knew I liked. This is how I ‘do’ music.

Now you may be reading this list of various bands and artists I have liked (all of which I still like) and be thinking oh god her music taste is terrible. Others may be reading it thinking yeah cool I like them too. We all have different music tastes and everyone – EVERYONE – has something in their music collection that they love listening to that they’re ashamed of, or at least somebody would mock them for. So I understand if you’re someone who doesn’t like my music tastes, or who thinks my approach to finding and listening to music is a crime against music itself or whatever, believe me, I get it. We all also have music that we find annoying. For example, I would probably feel the same way about you if you’re someone who likes the annoying club music they play at my work (I don’t, by the way, work in a club. I work in a supermarket, which probably makes it worse). And god knows I constantly take the piss out of my other half whose favourite artists include Celine Dione and Nickleback.

To this, my lovely fiancée would simply narrow her eyes at me and retort that I am one to talk, seeing as all I listen to is the music from Glee.

Which may or may not be completely accurate. Or, partially accurate. I currently have my iPod on shuffle and am reconnecting with my non-Glee music collection (currently listening to: Vogue – Madonna (!)) but for the most part, yes I like listening to the music from Glee. A lot. I stand by this strongly, partly because I love Glee – something I’m sure I’ll display a lot further in this blog (and there are also things I don’t like about Glee, which I’m sure I’ll also get into in this blog) – and partly because it fits in with how I like my music. It’s a soundtrack to a tv show I like, that is constantly updating and providing new music from a variety of genres, much of it with a show tune twist (or A Capella, oh god A Capella!), whilst letting me stick with what I know and love. It also provides me with new music to discover (Journey’s Greatest Hits – check!) and whilst my beautiful better half claims this makes me one of the douchey kids who suddenly love music once it’s been on Glee, I’d say is there ever actually anything wrong with people discovering new music? At least I’m not one of the kids that are like ‘hey whose this old guy covering Glee?’. Those people don’t deserve music.

Does it even matter what kind of music one listens to? Let’s just agree to disagree and talk about music we DO both like! Like – Lady Gaga? No? Queen? Come on, everyone likes Queen! (currently listening to: Don’t Stop Me Now – Queen (!)) Avenged Sevenfold? Bowling For Soup? Goyte? Katy Perry? Beyonce? …Weird Al??

If you’re appalled by any of my music tastes, and have any music you’d like to recommend, feel free to drop a comment! Help to expand Steve’s music knowledge!

If you’d like to moan at me about Glee or any other music I’ve mentioned, please go here.

Leave a comment

Filed under Personal Post, Steve Listens To Music

Four Days Until I Receive My Results


Continue reading

Leave a comment

Filed under Graduation, Personal Post

When does ‘The End’ appear?

Leaving education for the first time, with no idea what’s ahead. So where do I from here? What’s the next step?

Leave a comment

Filed under Graduation